Don't waste your single season!

Don’t waste your single season

1 Corinthians 7:32-35

32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

A topic that has been placed so heavily on my heart, probably because it’s been a point of discussion with a few of my blog readers as well as my personal sisters in Christ. The single season. The most purifying, refining and moulding season you’ll get to experience. It’s the training point where you are alone with God, just you and Him.

-          - Making Christ your treasure

First things first, who is the centre of your life? Are you motivated by money? The attention of men? The approval of other people? Your single season is the chance you can truly embrace the love God has for you, and make the decision to seek Him in all you do. At the core of your life should be the love of Christ, so that you may yourself be able to reflect that in your daily doings. A void in your heart cannot be filled with things of this world, nor can it be brushed over with the presence of another person whom God has not called you to be with. So ask God to cleanse your heart so that it will be focused on pursuing Christ and allowing Him to consume your heart with all He is and all He has to offer you.

-          - Where is your trust?

Do you trust God with your life and the plans that He has? Sometimes we get so frustrated because God doesn’t seem to be working on our schedule, yet we lack the same wisdom that He has. He knows what is best for you, and knows exactly when you need things. We should also bear in mind that not all of us may be called to marry, so don’t let this overshadow your one true purpose which is to serve God and fulfil His will for your life. Will you still be a ‘good and faithful servant’ if you don’t get married? We don’t live to get married. We live to please GOD.

-          - Don’t wait in idleness – get busy!

So many Christian girls have got into the habit of getting distracted by the thought of ‘waiting on their Adam’. Yes this does mean we should preserve our purity, cover our hearts and be led to God’s best, BUT it doesn’t mean put your life on hold so that you can seek and chase a man down! Make sure you are walking in purpose. Take time out to sit down with God and ask Him what you’ve been called to do in order to serve His Kingdom. Ask Him about your calling, whether that be in ministry, service, performing arts, beauty, sports, or whatever you have been called to do in order to glorify Him. Pursue your vision because the Kingdom of God is near! We don’t have time to waste, looking around hopeless for a magical Adam to show up as if that’s our cue to become virtuous Godly women! Use this time where you don’t have the pressure of answering to anyone but God, in order to start up something God has placed on your heart. Be spirit led in this time of oneness with the most important man in your life.

-        -  Split time

In 1 Corinthians 7 Paul speaks about split time with your husband/wife once you get married. When you are single you have the time to be fully devoted to The Lord. You have the chance to serve Him to your best ability, getting involved in as much as you want to – without having to worry about the responsibility of a husband or family. There are no distractions because it is simply just you and God. He is your focus, and His Kingdom should be what you aim to serve. I would never want to look back at my single season and be regretful at the thought of me spending all of my time searching for a spouse, when I could have been seeking God on a deeper level, pursuing what God has called me to do, and allowing my character to be developed. The fulfilment in your heart can only come from Christ, so don’t waste energy looking at anything but the cross.

- Guard your heart against distraction

Waiting on God’s best for you is one of the most challenging things because it not only puts your trust and patience in God to the test, but also restricts your fleshly desires. Don’t settle with people you KNOW are not pushing you towards Christ and don’t have a relationship with God. You will feel it in your spirit. They are not God’s best for you. God will write your love story according to your growth and the work He has started in you. Let go of your desires and allow Him to blow your mind when you are fully dependent and whole in Him.

I’m praying for all of the young people who might be struggling in this area and have been hesitant to truly WAIT ON THE LORD! Resting in God when you trust Him is the ultimate version of surrendering. When we stop striving to make things happen, we get in tune with His spirit and what He wants for us. The single season is a time of preparation and a time for you to build the strongest foundation in your relationship with God. Don’t waste this time- seek Him, be guided by Him and WAIT ON HIM.

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