What is an unequally yoked relationship?
2 Corinthians 6:14 - Do
not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and
wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
Straight away we can
see the word has issues with intimate association of those who believe and
those who do not. An unequally yoked relationship is one that has the potential
to pull you away from your developing relationship with God, because that
person does not believe what you believe in (Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour).
An unequally yoked
relationship hinders your pursuing of righteousness and can cause stagnant
moments in your walk with Christ, which can be intentionally avoided if you
were either single or with someone within the faith. Their influence may over
power yours, and your spirit begins to no longer desire things of Godly honour
and holiness but instead the temporary things of the world.
An unequally yoked
relationship is simply put as the word describes it – light with darkness. They
cannot fellowship, especially within a courtship/relationship which is meant to
be pursuing Godly marriage. If one of you is exposed to the truth and the love
of God and one is still lost and unsaved then how are you supposed to glorify God
with your decisions and the work of your own individual salvation when your supposed
‘other half’ is living with a heart unrepentance and darkness?
An unequally yoked
relationship lacks purpose. Amos 3:3 tells us ‘Can two people walk together
without agreeing on the direction?’ Don’t allow your standards to drop for
someone who is not evidently pushing you in the direction of pursuing Christ. When
you are actively seeking God and your purpose for your life, the last thing you
want is to be captivated by the lust of someone who is not going where you’re
going. In marriage, you are meant to be purpose mates, who push each other
closer to what God has ordained for you to do as both individuals and as a
partnership. Long story short, if you are called to minister to the nations
about the second coming of Jesus Christ and your boyfriend wants to do trap
trap trap in ends…you are not purposefully fit.
Building on something that is not CHRIST
1 Corinthians 3:10 -11
According to the grace of God which was given to me, like a wise master
builder I laid a foundation, and another is building on it. But each man must
be careful how he builds on it. For no man can lay a foundation other than the
one which is laid, which is Jesus Christ.
As someone who is
actively seeking God and aiming to develop their relationship with Him, Jesus
is what your heart should be living for. So since your own personal foundation
is based on the salvation received from Christ, why would you even consider altering
that in any way for someone who cannot compare to Jesus and His love for you?
Remember that no man or woman can fill the void that is placed in your heart –
ONLY CHRIST CAN. Building a house (relationship) on something that is not
Christ is bound to crumble. It lacks substance. It won’t understand the meaning
of true love, because not both people have experienced true love that comes
from the One Living God.
If you do end up
pursuing someone who is not in the faith, you will soon come to realise that
tests and trials will reveal how shakeable the relationship is without the love
of Christ. As believers, we are expectant of tests that challenge our faith,
and although we must CLING to God and be fully dependent on His grace to help
us, it is also useful to have those connected to Christ available to encourage
you. If your partner doesn’t have a foundation built on Christ, they are capped
from offering Biblical advice to help you to stabilize your faith. In times of
fear, doubt and anxiety, are they going to be filled up with the word enough to
help you endure what God has set out for you to overcome?
In addition to this,
consider the fact that a home is blessed when it honours God. Part of honouring
God includes daily communication in prayer. A boyfriend/girlfriend who cannot
pray for you, will not be able to help to encourage you to allow God to sustain
you, and can possibly push you out of alignment with God’s spirit’s instruction
because they are still spiritually blind themselves.
Why should I wait on
God’s best for me?
Consider this one
thing. Your worth, identity and value is in Christ alone. How can someone who
is without Christ comprehend what is buried within the God who formed your
heart? Coming from an experienced (and still ongoing) process of finding my
worth in Christ and not men or things of this world, I can tell you it was a
struggle. So why would I take back the heart that God had finally made to
understand it’s worth, to then chuck it at someone who I KNOW is not going to understand
it’s content? Always, always, always remember that you are set apart for God’s
glory and that whilst many will overlook this, you are aware and live by it.
Your heavenly value
is so precious, and will surpass the understanding of many on this earth. Many
boys and girls will not appreciate the love you have for God, and as well as
this, they won’t understand the character that God is blossoming within you,
but understand that it is okay. Not everyone is called to understand you,
because if it is God’s will, your heart will be revealed to the one that God sees
fit. I encourage you to never settle for less than what God has placed on your
heart and to never apologise for your Biblical standards. Always remember that
there is another side to your obedience, and that if you allow God to continue
to mature and develop what is inside of you, His promises will come to pass in
His immaculate timing.
‘’Why do you wear a
ring on your engagement finger Caitlin?’’
A question I get
asked about 5 times a day! And my honest answer when I tell people is ‘’I’m
married to the Lord’’. Whilst most people laugh it off and I break it down and
explain it’s my ring of commitment to God in purity, I thought I’d share the
true meaning of it. After coming out of my last relationship last year, I went
on a crazy journey with God, finding my worth in Him and really understanding
who He is as my creator as well as my best friend. As God was healing me from
heartbreak behind closed doors, I began to understand the importance of waiting
on God and not trying to do everything myself. I poured out to Him so much,
constantly asking Him whether the break up was my fault and if there was to
ever be a guy who was right for me. I remember God revealing so much to me
about my greater purpose not fitting with where I was in that relationship and
that He would fulfil my desire of marriage when the time was right. So I agreed
with Him and made the decision to wait on God’s best for me and preserve sex
until marriage (a decision I had already previously made at age 13).
This meant
no entertaining wordly guys, but I fell short of this quite quickly. I began to
get hit with tests to see if I was really committed to waiting, and I was consistently
drifting from what I had promised God, by going on dates and entertaining guys
I knew weren’t God’s best for me after the break up with my then boyfriend. It
got to a point where I felt that boys were a real distraction for my walk with
Christ and I had to cut it off all together because I knew I was living in disobedience
and was contradicting what I had always encouraged others to do.
I went into my
quiet space with God, and in prayer re-promised Him that I would wait. I
started to wear a ring on my ring finger to remind me daily of my commitment to
Christ and that I was married unto Him FIRST. It became a reminder of Jesus
being my first love, and that I was allowing Him to ordain my marriage when HE
wanted to. I had set my Biblical standards, and had told God what I wanted in a
guy and assured Him that I wouldn’t even settle for anyone lukewarm who wouldn’t
push me towards my Kingdom purpose. By then, I had started to be revealed of my
immeasurable worth in Christ and that my promise to God was one of purity and chastity
of both my body and heart.
So I encourage you to
wait. Whether you were in a similar situation to mine where God had to be your
healer, or whether you’ve been single your whole life, WAIT ON GOD. Don’t rush
to be comparable to people of this world, or attempt to fill that void with
romance and fake intimacy. Your intimacy should be towards Christ. Use this
time, to get to know Him and His heart on another level, because you will never
get this time back. So stop chasing that boy from another religion, stop
texting that girl who causes you to lust and look to the CROSS. Jesus is more
than enough for you all, and if you just give Him the chance, He will ordain
your love life. God’s intentional best for you will know your Creator well
enough to even get a smidge of the depth of your heart hidden in Christ. Trust
Him.
Jesus loves you!
CONTACT ME:
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@_caitlinnunez
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Email – kingdomambassadors@hotmail.com
{Shout out to MK!
Praying for your wife bro! Love you!}
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